Remember that time I blogged about transparency? About how I have apparently made it my life's mission to teach and reach others through this blog? And that the way I've done this is to simply share my story. And to do this takes a transparency that most people are uncomfortable with?
Bam.
I just said it. Can't get more transparent than that.
Why on earth would I do that, you may ask. I'm a relatively attractive woman in her early thirties with a lot going for her... surely I don't have to resort to eharmony...
But I am by nature a cautious person. I like to see guys's profiles before I agree to go out with them. How many single people have gone on completely worthless dates with your friend's boyfriend's friend and the two of you have absolutely nothing in common? My roommate makes fun of me because I talk about how no date is better than a bad date. "At least you get a free dinner out of it," is his comment. And to that I say, some things aren't worth even a free meal. Can I get an Amen?
Thus, online dating. It's like grocery shopping for a date. You check the info, check the packaging, decide whether to try it out-- money back guaranteed. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't.
And you know what? I've met some great people. Obviously, nobody who's worked out to marriage just yet but I still have hope. Yeah, I've met some strange ones too, that's for sure. But that's just what you get sometimes. I will say that the stranger the date, the better the story. And I've actually made friends with some of these guys... people I can still call up on a Thursday night for dinner or live music and it's not awkward or weird.
And every date I go on, every person I meet-- it teaches me a bit about myself and it teaches me a bit about what I will tolerate in a relationship and what I won't. It helps me focus my vision on what I want out of life. It helps me realize what is important to me.
A sense of humor. Kindness. Personal strength without arrogance. Curiosity. A love for God. A passion for the outdoors. A passion for people and social justice and a deep desire to want to be a part of something greater than himself. Somebody not wrapped up in appearance. Somebody in tune with cultural norms but who isn't caught up in other's opinion. Someone open to new experiences.
He doesn't have to be rich. We don't have to like the same music. We don't have to have the same background. But we have to be going the same way... to the same place.
Is that too much to ask?
"It's going to take a special guy to be with you," I hear often. I take it as a compliment. I completely agree And I won't settle for less.
But I am by nature a cautious person. I like to see guys's profiles before I agree to go out with them. How many single people have gone on completely worthless dates with your friend's boyfriend's friend and the two of you have absolutely nothing in common? My roommate makes fun of me because I talk about how no date is better than a bad date. "At least you get a free dinner out of it," is his comment. And to that I say, some things aren't worth even a free meal. Can I get an Amen?
Thus, online dating. It's like grocery shopping for a date. You check the info, check the packaging, decide whether to try it out-- money back guaranteed. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't.
And you know what? I've met some great people. Obviously, nobody who's worked out to marriage just yet but I still have hope. Yeah, I've met some strange ones too, that's for sure. But that's just what you get sometimes. I will say that the stranger the date, the better the story. And I've actually made friends with some of these guys... people I can still call up on a Thursday night for dinner or live music and it's not awkward or weird.
And every date I go on, every person I meet-- it teaches me a bit about myself and it teaches me a bit about what I will tolerate in a relationship and what I won't. It helps me focus my vision on what I want out of life. It helps me realize what is important to me.
A sense of humor. Kindness. Personal strength without arrogance. Curiosity. A love for God. A passion for the outdoors. A passion for people and social justice and a deep desire to want to be a part of something greater than himself. Somebody not wrapped up in appearance. Somebody in tune with cultural norms but who isn't caught up in other's opinion. Someone open to new experiences.
He doesn't have to be rich. We don't have to like the same music. We don't have to have the same background. But we have to be going the same way... to the same place.
Is that too much to ask?
"It's going to take a special guy to be with you," I hear often. I take it as a compliment. I completely agree And I won't settle for less.
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